Gently Wobbling Pudding

Who you eat lunch with depends on your mood that day, and for a last-minute Friday plan you ask who's coming first. A joking remark can follow you all the way home. You move between people and solitude, and your feelings react delicately, like a pudding that jiggles when someone bumps the plate but keeps its shape.

Your mood on the day drives a lot of decisions, so sometimes you make plans and then want to cancel that morning. When you make plans, say upfront, "I might keep it short, depending on how I feel." With a way out, you end up canceling less.